5 Years of Perspective on Family, Faith and Love

On December 18, 2014, Allison and I saw the 5th anniversary of our big sister Heather’s homegoing.

When we were kids, she irritated the tar out of me on a regular basis, taught me about beauty products (note: NEVER use Vaseline for a hot-oil treatment for your hair), was bossy, sang with me loudly in public places (to upset Allison), knew EVERYthing (or so she thought), made me laugh, hurt my feelings, and once wrote a spoof-musical with me in the wee hours of the morning.

When we were grown up, we went for long stretches with hardly any communication, brainstormed gift ideas and event-planned for family celebrations, had sometimes-awkward get-togethers (because aren’t we ALL a little awkward, really?), spent hours in deep conversation, and once got so silly in a fancy steakhouse that we couldn’t stop laughing and our husbands were embarrassed to be seated with us.

5 Years of Perspective on Family Faith and Love

Perspective on Family, Faith and Love

When she got sick with pancreatic cancer, we suddenly talked every week even though we lived 1,000 miles apart. We sat and held hands in doctor’s waiting rooms even though when we were little she would shriek if I dared to touch her in public. We made tacky, inappropriate jokes during chemo treatments because it’s better to laugh than cry sometimes. And we reminded each other that God is God, He is good, and He loves us.

Now that she is gone, I realized that she helped me learn some stuff:

* People are often annoying, but they are important.

* Relationships are hard work, but they are of immeasurable value.

* You don’t always like the people you still choose to love, and that’s okay.

* People can be wrong and it not really matter that much.

* Sometimes an inappropriate joke is actually a statement of faith and hope.

* Family is messy and complicated, but it should not be taken for granted.

* Love — no matter exactly what shape it takes at a given time — is always worth it.

* God is God, He is good, and He loves us.

(See you, Heath….and thanks for the opal ring. I smile every time I wear it.)

Perspective on family, faith and love - Literature Study Guides from 7SistersHomeschool.com dig beneath the surface to ideas that really matter

My first copy of Old Possum’s Book of Practical Cats was a gift from Heather many years ago.


Looking beneath the surface for deeper meaning is an important part of life. It should be an integral part of how we read books with our homeschoolers, too. Literature study guides from 7Sisters don’t waste time with surface comprehension questions that feel like busywork to teens. Instead, they help readers dig deeply to find meaningful pieces of the story that might actually seem to MATTER in real life. Have you tried our study guides with your high school students yet?

Click here to view excerpts and detailed descriptions for our many titles available in the ebookstore, priced comfortably at $3.99 each.

Perspective on Family Faith and Love in a few simple sentences

For ideas on how to help those who grieve, download Carry Each Other’s Burdens FREE from our ebookstore.


This post is running concurrently on Perpetually Falling…in Worship at sabrinajustison.wordpress.com.


Perspective on Family, Faith and Love

Counting Blessings Instead of Cataloging Worries

What’s that quote from Corrie ten Boom?

“Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow. It empties today of its strength.”

It is truly amazing how easy it is to worry.

Counting Blessings instead of Cataloging Worries even in the face of chronic illness

Counting Blessings

Most of us don’t even limit ourselves to SIMPLY worrying. We catalog our worries.

We spend time mentally organizing them into groups related to a common theme. We make chains of worries, one trouble likely to lead to another and so on. We replay tough situations from the past and worry about how to prevent such a thing from ever happening again.

Human beings are really good at worrying!

I am working hard on leaving worrying behind me. I don’t want it to be a part of my life. I don’t want it taking the strength out of my days. But I’ve discovered that I am NO GOOD at simply ceasing to worry.

Instead, I am finding success as I replace my worries with gratitude. I need to truly, literally count my blessings.

It’s like a little game I play with myself. If I feel anxious about something and catch my mind beginning to churn away about it, I give myself permission to think about it AFTER I’ve given thanks for at least three blessings in my life right here and now. No falling back on lame-o, vague, generic blessings; I have to be specific and current in my thanksgiving. If, after I’ve sincerely recognized three blessings in front of me right now and given thanks for them, IF I still want to give energy to cataloging my worries, then I will allow myself to do so.

You know what? I never want to!

After I have stopped to count my blessings (really, truly, give thanks for at least three), I find the need for a worry-filled brain-churn has dissipated.

Homeschool worries?

Not until I give thanks for our freedom to homeschool, for the friends and community God’s created to support us in our homeschooling endeavors, for the precious conversation I just had with my son in the kitchen that might never have happened if he had been attending a traditional school today.

Financial worries?

Not until I’ve taken a moment to truly look at the “roof over our heads” and give thanks for our home, to think back over the countless times God has met a specific need (like the grocery gift cards that got anonymously dropped at my apartment that time, or…), to smile at my reflection in a great outfit I picked up for peanuts off a clearance rack in an outlet for less than $10 head to toe.

Parenting worries?

Not until I thank my Heavenly Father for being such a perfect parent who loves my kids much better than I love them, until I savor that unsolicited hug that I actually got from my teenager (yup, it happens once in awhile!) yesterday afternoon, until I meditate with a sigh of relief on the verses in the Bible that say that God’s got ’em and His plans for each kid can be trusted to be truly good.

Maybe when I’m finished counting blessings, I will still have to take a deep breath and do something hard. Maybe I have to tackle a homeschool subject with my kid that is frustrating both of us tremendously. Maybe I  have to go through a pile of bills and decide which ones to handle today because there simply isn’t money to pay every single one of them until the next paycheck arrives. Maybe I have to sit a kid down for a tough conversation that will end with me in tears. Life can be hard, and no fake happy-thoughts will change that reality.

But having replaced my worries with gratitude, I will find I have the STRENGTH to do the hard thing before me.

Becoming consistently aware of God’s loving fingerprints in my life makes it possible to count my blessings instead of cataloging my worries, and leaves me with strength for today.

What often-overlooked blessings can you give thanks for today?

How do you combat the urge to catalog your worries?

God Meets Me Here - A Devotional to Help you Count Blessings in the face of Chronic Illness

Do you, or does someone you love, suffer with chronic illness?  Lisa’s devotional “God Meets Me Here” will encourage and equip you to keep counting blessings in the sick times.


For practical, encouraging posts from some of our favorite bloggers on the “worry categories” listed above, check these out:

Dear Homeschool Mom Who’s Worried About  Finishing the School Year by Wendy at Hip Homeschool Moms

I Can’t Homeschool Because My Kids are in Middle School by Megan at Education Possible

How To Negotiate with Credit Card Companies by Penny at Meet Penny

Parents, Pick Your Battles by Tara at This Sweet Life of Mine

Peaceful Communication in Your Family by Misty at MistyLeask.com


Counting Blessings

Resources for Reluctant Readers

Not all students, even homeschooled students, love to read. Maybe one (or more) even lives at your house!

We’ve encountered lots of reluctant readers in our own 7Sisters’ homeschools and in our local homeschooling community. With some encouragement from others and some resources for reluctant readers, you can keep this reality from becoming a tragedy in your homeschool.

Resources for Reluctant Readers - Favorite Posts for Helping Kids Who Aren't Natural Bookworms

Resources for Reluctant Readers

Below are links to some of our most popular posts, those offering resources for helping reluctant readers become GOOD readers even if they aren’t natural bookworms.

Scroll down to the bottom of the post, too, to read suggestions for building on a great book (like Charles Dickens’ A Christmas Carol) for lots of rich learning in a variety of subject areas.

Have you had success helping a reluctant reader? Leave a comment and share your ideas!

For teens and tweens:

For Struggling High School Students

A List of Book Titles Recommended by Teens in our Community

Practical Steps Toward Success for a Teen or Tween

Student-Recommended Series for Middle School Readers

Ideas for Helping Teens Form Relationships with Classic Literature (Even When It’s Hard to Read)

For younger students:

Lighthearted Encouragement from One Mom’s Experience

Recommended Titles and Ideas for Inspiring Bored Kids

5th Grader’s Story of Getting Past the “Books-Block”

Case Study: Elementary Student Hates to Read



Charles Dickens' A Christmas Carol is packed with learning

Unit Studies are fun for the younger homeschool grades, but what can you do to bring various subjects together in high school?

Many homeschool parents would agree that it’s tougher to take a unit study approach in high school because of the depth of subject matter that needs to be covered or mastered for a high school transcript credit.  But giving our high school students special mini-units of learning can be a great break from their regular school routines, and can also pack a LOT of education into a short period of time.


Here’s an example of how you might use Charles Dickens’ A Christmas Carol for several types of learning.

Log the hours you spend on the various activities and add them to the appropriate subject on your transcript as enrichment (for more on logging hours for Carnegie units of credit, click here).

Read the book.

It’s not very long, so it’s not overwhelming.  It’s a familiar story, so it won’t frustrate reluctant readers.  It’s Dickens; it’s a classic; it “counts” on a high school book list.

Watch one or more movie adaptations of the story.

There have been SO many movies made from this story!  For a student interested in film (or one who needs fine arts hours), choose 3 or more movies and analyze the similarities and differences among them.  Watch with family and friends.  Make snacks.  Make a night of it!  But have lots of lively discussion about what worked well and what fell flat in each version.

Turn A Christmas Carol into lots of learning in your homeschoolUse our literature study guide to spark discussion.

Explore themes, characters, relationships, symbols and more.  Write based on the ideas you discuss.

Look into the history of Scrooge’s London.

“Are there no prisons?”  he asked.  “And the Union workhouses?”  “The Treadmill and the Poor Law?”  These ideas are offered by Scrooge as a solution for the poor.  Study about the wretched conditions of the poor in London in the mid-1800’s.  Study about boarding schools.  Learn how to play the many games mentioned in Stave III when Scrooge visits his nephew Fred’s house.  Play them with family or friends.

Check out the food described in the story.

If your student is interested in culinary arts, find recipes and cook up a Dickensian Christmas dish or two!

Study the author.

Charles Dickens had a fascinating life.  Read about him.  Watch a good biographical video like this one.

Investigate currency.

A shilling…a farthing…a half-crown.  Huh?  Here’s a cool website that explains old English money.

Martha Cratchit worked for a milliner.

Do you have a student interested in fashion or sewing or design?  Explore hat design, an important part of British fashion in the 1800’s.  Start with this Vintage Fashion Guild website.

Sing carols of the day.

Scrooge turns away carolers who sing “God Rest Ye Merry, Gentlemen.”  What other carols would have annoyed Ebenezer as he walked the streets of London?  Sing ’em out!  Dickens called his story A Christmas CAROL because he wanted it to be “sung again and again” to fan the Christmas spirit into flame.

Hone your public speaking skills.

Dickens gave readings of his famous work (something many felt was beneath him), and was known for being dramatic and altogether wonderful.  Can your student take a stab at a dramatic reading of part of A Christmas Carol?  Public speaking is a very important skill to cultivate during the high school years.

Art appreciation.

John Leech provided the original illustrations for A Christmas Carol, four woodcuts and four hand-colored etchings.  Learn more about these kinds of illustration.

What ideas can you add to this list?

A Tale of Two Cities literature study guideLove Dickens so much that you want to read more?  Check out our literature study guide to accompany A Tale of Two Cities.



Resources for Reluctant Readers

Is It Wise to Homeschool a Bullied Child?

Even the U.S. Government has a site dedicated to understanding bullying and putting a stop to it.

We all fear our kids being bullied. We work hard to parent them in such a way that they will never bully another person. We try to counsel them wisely about what to do if they witness bullying. But what happens when a bullying situation becomes so severe that it may be necessary to remove children from school for their protection?

Vicki Tillman (yes, 7Sister Vicki!) is a licensed professional counselor. She has addressed this subject in the past in this classic post that offers insight on the subject of when it might be wise to homeschool a bullied child.


In my work as a counselor, I often help children who are being bullied at school work to become bully-proof. Sometimes the problem seems to have reached crisis proportions and the parents decide to remove their child from the toxic environment and homeschool for a season. 

homeschool a bullied child

Consider it Carefully: Is it Wise to

Homeschool a Bullied Child?

I was tickled when I ran across an essay in Psychology Today called Mean Girls and Homeschooling Moms. In the article, Laura Brodie, an instructor at Washington and Lee University, discussed a trend she has noticed: when children are being persistently bullied at school (despite the school administration’s best efforts to stop it), some parents are bringing their children home for their education.

She noted the story of Katrina Stonof, author of the Stone Soup book blog, who brought her elementary-aged son home after repeated bullying (name calling, teasing, being stuffed into a trash can). She homeschooled her son for several months,and later enrolled him in a charter school.

Brodie also told the story of Beth and Shari, who moved to a new town when Shari was starting middle school. The first year went fine, but by 7th grade, she became the target of a particularly sly and cruel group of girls. She was pushed, had clothes stolen, was harassed by phone, and more. At one point the police were involved. Alert teachers and administration could not stop it. Finally, Beth brought Shari home to finish out the school year.

This is what Beth had to say:

“By taking her out of the situation and homeschooling, we showed Shari that she was the most important factor in this equation. We love her and would do anything for her. It enabled her to take a breather, to let her figure out what she was made of, to role play and learn how to say “back off b****” (oh yes, we taught her many fabulously foul phrases), and to grow as a person and gain her self confidence back (totally absent at this point). It may not be right in every situation or for every family, but it was right for Shari.” (www. Psychology Today)

In my 16 years as a homeschool advisor, I have worked with some families who made this choice for their bullied child. Sometimes the student takes the chance to get back on his/her feet emotionally and then heads back to school. Often, the family becomes immersed in the supportive homeschool culture, loves it, and never returns to a traditional school.

Either way, the parents were brave enough (and had the resources and support) to help out their suffering child.

Have you ever had that experience?


homeschool bullied child
Sometimes a bullied child loses confidence in himself. One way to help restore that confidence is to arm him with specific social skills. Our Social Skills for Children teaches 10 important social behaviors to help empower children. The skills are taught by role play with the parent and then peers. Fun and easy and only $3.99.


I found these insights interesting as I read some of the information at StopBullying.gov. I had never given much thought before to the power of labels, and the accidental way in which labeling a child a “bully” or a “victim” may make the problem worse rather than helping to solve it.

The news is never short of heart-breaking stories about bullying behavior on the teen and young adult scene in the form of hazing incidents and the like. While homeschooling is not the answer to bullying, it is certainly worth consideration when a bullying situation presents itself.

What might happen if the children bullying others had parents who recognized the power of their involvement in their child’s life?

How can we, as parents and homeschoolers, lovingly bring bullying behavior to the attention of a child’s parent?

Have you had any experience helping a parent deal with their own child’s behavior…as a bully, as a child hurt by another’s bullying behavior, or as a witness to bullying? What can you recommend?

Homeschool a Bullied Child


Teaching Teens Perseverance

Encourage your teen to emulate faithful servants, not celebrities! Teaching teens how to build strong character is no easy job, but exposing them to the real-life stories of people who have struggled and triumphed with integrity and godliness can help. Endeavors like teaching teens perseverance will become easier when you introduce them to people like Joni.

Teaching Teens Perseverance

 Teaching Teens Perseverance

Joni: An Unforgettable Story Literature Study Guide (Joni Eareckson Tada’s autobiography) inspires your homeschool high school student without killing the joy of the book with busywork.

Do you know Joni’s story?  A diving accident at the age of 16 left Joni in a wheelchair, a quadriplegic paralyzed from the neck down.  But read what happened after that…and be inspired to trust God to do amazing things in your own life!

Your teen interacts with the ideas of perseverance and redemption from the life of this great Christian role model in this 12-page study guide. The etext contains:

-background information

-comprehension questions by chapter

-suggestions for supplemental activities

-answer key

High school is the perfect time to develop powerful Christian character traits. This $3.99 comfortably-priced study guide assists your diligent mentoring in your teen’s life.

For an overview of Joni’s story and to order her book, visit the Joni and Friends ministry website at www.joniandfriends.org.

Read the book, work through the study guide, and watch this remarkable video, in which Joni shares her testimony after decades in a wheelchair. 

Perspective, challenge, encouragement and inspiration!

Build Your Homeschool Student’s Strengths – 6 Simple Ways

Find ways to build your homeschool student’s strengths while you also help with redeeming their weaknesses.

1) Let your homeschooler see your delight in learning something new.

Do you enjoy exploring new topics, reading new books, researching new ideas? Do they hear your excitement as you relate what you have learned?

Build Your Homeschool Student's Strengths

Build Homeschool Student’s Strengths

2) Enter into his or her areas of interest and encourage learning more.

Show an interest in their passions and help them to explore them. We did unit studies on things of interest to various children when they were young – a pirate unit for the boys and a horse unit for my horse-crazy daughter.

3) Keep your lesson times age-appropriate.

A first grader can’t sit still very long, so keep instruction brief and interspersed with other activities.

4) Take advantage of teachable moments.

Yes, your children will roll their eyes and tease you about turning everything into a “lesson”, but they will remember these moments for years to come.  (Okay, don’t turn everything into a teaching lesson, but you get the idea).

5) Find curriculum that balances your teaching style and your child’s learning style.

What works well for one homeschooler doesn’t always work for the next one. It’s both frustrating and brings variety to life.

6) Limit exposure to things that are not “true, honorable, just, pure, lovely, commendable, excellent, or worthy of praise” while exposing your children to the finer things.

Teach them about the wonders in nature. Read good books. Watch good movies. Explore museums and historical sites. Go to worthy plays, musicals, and concerts. Show them fine art. Read the Bible and memorize scripture. Fill their minds with things that are good.

What are some ways you build your homeschooler’s strengths?
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Choosing curriculum with NO BUSYWORK leaves more time in your schedule to pursue things that are areas of strength for your child. Take a look at excerpts from our writing guides for Essays, Poetry, Research Papers, and Short Stories to see what we mean!


Build Your Homeschool Student’s Strengths

How to Learn from Failure with our Teens

Homeschool transcripts show high school years full of academics, electives, service, career exploration and more. Homeschool parents want a glittering record of awesome accomplishments in place by graduation.  But failure is bound to happen sometime…somewhere…with something.

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Learn from Failure with Teens

A teen may experience academic failure, but it’s just as likely to be failure to achieve a goal of some other sort. Being cut from a sports team says, “Failure!” to teens. Not getting hired for that first-choice part-time job speaks it, too. While no one will deny that these moments hurt, we can see something powerful and truly GOOD come about as we learn from failure with our teens.

Trying things is an important part of high school, and trying new things almost guarantees some failures along the way.  New endeavors, or new levels of commitment to something only dabbled-in before help students determine their direction for after graduation, grow as individuals, and form relationships with like-minded people.  Truth is, no one is good at everything, and no one really loves everything he or she tries.

While teaching commitment is a priority as we build character in our children, it also needs to be okay to try something and determine that it is not a great fit and not worth continuing.  We need to teach our kids the difference between quitting and deciding to end something.



is what we do when we’re tired of doing something that costs us. It is a reaction to something outside of us that makes us uncomfortable.

Deciding to end something

is the result of a careful, intentional evaluation of an endeavor. When we wisely determine that our time and energy would actually be better spent elsewhere, we may decide to end something because doing so is best.


Learning to choose between good and better…

between what is a good fit for someone else but feels way out of my area of strength and calling…

between something that can be peripheral but not a core priority for this season…

these are life-equipping skills that our kids need to make good choices in the decades to come as well as right now.

Even academic “failure” can be a good thing.  Most students hit a subject in high school that is a real stretch.  Especially for kids who have always found academic success near at hand, facing that first “failure” (for some of these kids they think that getting anything less than 100% is failure!) is confidence-battering.  Allowing them to perform poorly while encouraging them to do what is possible for THEM equips them to understand that they are going to struggle and do things less-than-perfectly in life, and sometimes a job barely done is truly all that is possible.

May I share a personal story?

When I was a teen, I had a heart for people with suffering from mental illness. The vocal ensemble with which I sang in high school performed Christmas music at our state psych hospital, and I decided some time after that to volunteer twice a month on Saturdays with the occupational therapists, using the arts to help patients in their recovery. After about 6 visits, I decided to end my volunteer service there.


I didn’t quit; I decided to end my service.

I carefully evaluated how things were working out and talked it over with my parents. I found that the level of personal boundaries necessary for successful work with psych inpatients was not something I possessed at just-turned-18. I felt like I was failing because I wanted to be a help to these folks, but all I knew was that conversations kept going scary places when I was with them, and I was fighting wicked stomach-aches before the end of the volunteer day because I was so nervous. My goal was to be a kind and positive influence in the lives of people battling for their mental health. I determined that I could not achieve that goal in the setting before me.


I believe in hard work.  I believe in teaching our kids to stick to it when things get tough.  But I also know that any person’s identity has to be tied to more than his ability to achieve whatever goal is before him.  We need to be able to fall short of a goal with peace and gratitude for the God who loves us all in our insufficiency.  We need to help our teens understand how to extend grace to themselves and to others when they don’t hit the bullseye.


Can we be brave enough to learn from failure with our teens?

Can we have honest conversation with them as they look at something hard in their lives?

Can we resist the urge to be snow-plow parents, moving all the obstacles out of their way so they won’t struggle, protecting them from discomfort…because we know that would only lead to teaching them to be quitters?


Can we also fight the fear of what others might think of us if we face the truth that a class, or a job, or a relationship, or a sport, or a service project is actually NOT yielding fruit that is worth the cost to our teen?


I love seeing my teen succeed in high school.But I’m praying for the boldness to also love seeing him fail, failure with peace and with courage and with the ability to learn from it all.

I want to learn from failure with my teen.

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For a tremendous true story of failure and redemption, read Charles Colson’s Born Again with your homeschool high school student! 7Sisters NO-busywork literature study guide helps you dig into this powerful account of what one man learned from failure.

Homeschool Help: Your Turn to Talk

There are 3 questions below that we’ve heard this week from some of our homeschool friends:

(Some of you are shy and share with us but feel funny posting here…which is always fine! Feel free to email thoughts and concerns to sabrina@7sistershomeschool.com!)


Homeschool Help: Your Turn to Talk

Homeschool Help: Your Turn to Talk


– How do I deal with stall tactics? My kid seems to have so many pressing needs when it’s time to work on a school task. Tweens and teens come up with some REALLY creative stall tactics. How can I get ’em moving on the school work without turning every day into a battle?

– Do you approach your homeschool high school day in terms of HOURS of schoolwork, or a specific list of tasks to accomplish, or some other way?

– My teen is terrible at following directions. Driver’s Ed is coming up soon and I worry that this is going to mess him up in trying to earn his driver’s license. How can we improve direction following for a kid who is smart, just struggles in this area for some reason?

Do you have help to offer? C’mon, don’t keep all your great ideas to yourself!


Offer ideas to help homeschoolers conquer the challenges above, or start another topic in your comment; it’s up to you.


If you need Homeschool Help: YOUR TURN to Talk!

Tell us what’s bugging you, frustrating you, confusing you, intimidating you. Let’s all put our heads together and see if we can help each other.

If you can offer someone else Homeschool Help: YOUR TURN to Talk!

Tell us what’s working great in your homeschool. Share success stories — you are not bragging, because we ASKED you to tell us the good stuff to encourage us all.

On Saturdays, we want you to comment here. There’s no set theme. This is an “open thread” post.


These simple rules will suffice:

1. Start your comment with a topic word or phrase, like “Algebra I,” or “editing writing,” or “time management.” That will make it easy for people to scroll through and read more on the topics that most interest them.

2. If you are responding to someone who already commented, use the SAME topic they used.

3. Keep it judgment-free! We need encouragement. We need ideas. We don’t need to slam each other if we disagree. There are no cookie-cutters for creating homeschool success.

4. If you share a link, make sure it’s relevant. Spammy links will be deleted by admins.

That’s about it!


What’s going on in your homeschool this week?

Homeschool Help: Your Turn to Talk

Battling Negative Homeschool Attitude With a Change in Perspective

A new academic year is under-way. Let’s take a moment to look at our homeschools. How are things going?

Do you feel like you’re still in that warm, fluffy, sunshiny part of the year…or are you feeling frustrated? Difficulties can strike unexpectedly in our homeschools. Regardless of how you are feeling about things at any given moment, you’re most likely doing better than you think!

What you see and what you hear depends a great deal on where you are standing. It also depends on what sort of person you are. –C.S. Lewis in The Magician’s Nephew

Although this is a quote from a children’s book series (The Chronicles of Narnia), it holds some wisdom for us grown-ups, too.

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Homeschool Attitude

Allow me to rephrase:

What we see in other people and what we hear other people say, depends a great deal on how we see ourselves (and listen to ourselves). It also depends on what sort of personality we have.

If we change perspective (the way we are seeing and listening to ourselves and the people around us) we can avoid unhelpful attitudes and behaviors. This can be a key that opens a door for healthy change. Take a look at this:

Unhelpful look at self Unhelpful look at others Helpful look at self and others
Self-critical Critical of others At peace with self and world, as much as circumstances allow
Perfectionistic Avoidant Can take life as it comes, with mistakes and imperfections
Finding things to worry about or denying there are problems Nagging or *sticking head in the sand* Change what can be changed (mostly *you*), accept the things that cannot be changed (*mostly others*)
Living in the past or postponing life for the future Unforgiveness of others or brushing aside relationships while you strive for future goals Living in the present, being respectful of past and future


Here’s an example:

The cashier at the local grocery store snips at you and stands staring into space while you bag all your own groceries. If you take the perspective that she is trying to offend you or has a bad attitude you will feel angry. If you take the perspective that she thinks you look funny and have bad breath, you will feel embarrassed. You might have a panic attack if her behavior reminds me of your abusive first grade teacher.

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Unhealthy perspectives can eventually change your personality (for the worse). You could allow yourself to become the kind of person who is rude to cashiers or makes other people do your shopping.

On the other hand, changing your perspective might change your experience:

What if you find out that the cashier’s husband just filed for divorce, her father is extremely ill, she lost her wallet with the cash from her paycheck, her first grade child is failing math and she couldn’t find her dog this morning?

“Poor girl,” you might be thinking… and WILLINGLY bag your own groceries.

A change in perspective can change your experience. A lifestyle of keeping healthy perspectives helps improve one’s personality.


Try changing where you stand by changing your perspective, you’ll see more peace and strength in your life.


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Help your homeschool high schooler learn about perspective through solid, but not stolid, curriculum (that looks GREAT on a transcript).


Introduction to Psychology from a Christian Perspective,

Human Development from a Christian Worldview, and

World History and Philosophy!

These user-friendly, not fussy, e-texts help your homeschooler understand himself better and the world around him better- while building a powerful transcript!

And for a video encouraging a new perspective, listen to Sabrina’s reminder; we are ALL works in progress.

Homeschool Help: Your Turn to Talk

We want to try something new this school year here at 7Sisters.


Homeschool Help: Your Turn to Talk

Homeschool Help: Your Turn to Talk


If you need Homeschool Help: YOUR TURN to Talk!

Tell us what’s bugging you, frustrating you, confusing you, intimidating you. Let’s all put our heads together and see if we can help each other.

If you can offer someone else Homeschool Help: YOUR TURN to Talk!

Tell us what’s working great in your homeschool. Share success stories — you are not bragging, because we ASKED you to tell us the good stuff to encourage us all.

On Saturdays, we need you to comment here. There’s no set theme. This is an “open thread” post.


These simple rules will suffice:

1. Start your comment with a topic word or phrase, like “Algebra I,” or “editing writing,” or “time management.” That will make it easy for people to scroll through and read more on the topics that most interest them.

2. If you are responding to someone who already commented, use the SAME topic they used.

3. Keep it judgment-free! We need encouragement. We need ideas. We don’t need to slam each other if we disagree. There are no cookie-cutters for creating homeschool success.

4. If you share a link, make sure it’s relevant. Spammy links will be deleted by admins.

That’s about it!


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