When last we saw our heroine, she was faithfully recognizing change, trusting God and making course corrections to transition from a traditional homeschool schedule to one of rotating 12-hour shiftwork. But that was all external circumstance requiring change.
What about those pesky internal catalysts?
It’s easy to accept that children will stop using diapers and switch to using the potty. But they also change in harder ways as they grow up. They no longer believe that mom knows everything. They develop friendships with kids whose families do things very differently from ours, and begin to question whether OUR WAY is the only way. They develop interests in topics about which we know nothing. They have emotional and spiritual battles that are not familiar to us.
My oldest two children like to do a lot of verbal processing. But four years into homeschooling through high school I encountered the strong silent type in my 3rd child. As far as I could tell, the kid was either mute in my presence or he hated me.
“Let’s chat about the struggles you are having with Algebra II.” Stony resistance. “I’ll handle it, Mom.”
“That cute girl really seems to like talking to you at co-op….” The glare in his eyes was enough to make mighty men tremble.
“Wanna pray together about that tough decision you have to make?” No, he wanted to head off alone into the wilderness to talk to God.
What was wrong? My framework didn’t fit the life inside it anymore! Our family TALKED about things! Clearly this son was switched in the hospital (unlikely, since he was born at a birth center with no other babies in the house that night…), or I had to change my framework for raising and homeschooling him.
Transitioning from a “talk about it” framework to a “pray about it privately and communicate PRN” was tough. Part way through his junior year of high school, in fact, I took a huge leap of faith and allowed him to take full responsibility for managing his own time and schoolwork, fearing all the while that he would not finish the required work by the end of the school year. God did a huge work in his heart during that time, and with hindsight I can rejoice in what He accomplished when I got out of the way. But that was one scary stretch of transition, let me tell you!
If I had not recognized that God had given me a very different personality to homeschool in kid #3, if I had refused to trust His plan for that child, or if I had refused to make course corrections for how I was guiding him through high school, I might have gotten in the way of the heart-work that God had in mind, deeply damaged my relationship with my son….and certainly given myself an ulcer.
Have you encountered internal catalysts for change in your homeschool?